There are people in this world that do not care what other people think. They do not consider the feelings of others in their decision making process. Really they do not have a decision making process, they just do what they want.
I am a person that gives so many fucks. I care deeply about what people think. I think about how my choices will affect the people around me. Many times, those people do not care at all and I end up doing something that serves the people around me but not myself.
One of my goals this year is to find the middle ground between those two places. I think there are things that are important care deeply about, other things need so much less attention. Many of my friends and clients have decided to join me on this journey.
Here are a few tips on how to give less fucks:
1. Start small. Pick one thing or area of your life that frustrates you. When that thing pops up and frustration starts, stop thinking about it and think about something happy.
2. Have a designated happy thought to distract you from that frustrating thing.
3. Think about what you can and cannot control in terms of that frustrating thing. Do what you can and let go of what you can’t.
4. Make a list of things that need your focus. When you are in frustrating situations like standstill traffic think about how you can problem solve in ways that you will be productive with the tasks that need your focus and you can actually do something about. I like to listen to podcasts that have relevant information to my tasks for the week when I’m in traffic.
5. I had a Pastor once that had a great visual about conflict. He said to think about a game of tug of war. You have to have someone on both sides pulling the rope to keep the game going. But if you drop the rope there is no more tug. Drop the rope.
6. Letting go is something that takes practice. Just keep practicing.
These are just a few small ways you can practice giving less fucks. The more you practice the better you will be at changing that habit. If you have any tips on how to give less fucks please share in the comments!